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Subtitled "A Realistic Approach", we found this to be a fairly accurate description. It is quite comprehensive and an excellent resource for a beginner just starting to explore this form of alternative sexuality. He covers what SM is and why people get involved. The Basic Basics section covers safewords, negotiation before a scene (the term used for an SM play session), how to set a scene, and what to expect when you visit a professional dominant or submissive. There are some excellent forms to fill out to help determine what both parties can expect from a scene, and these can be very helpful in guiding you through the initial negotiation process of what will take place and what might exceed someone's personal limits.

The section on finding partners has very good advice on what to do and where to go, from joining clubs to writing personal ads. Jay points out many of the pitfalls, and offers sound advice on what to realistically expect. He also offers solid advice on introducing SM into an existing relationship.

The section on bondage covers ropes and various forms of tying, blindfolds, ear plugs, hoods, cuffs, suspension, all with exactly what you need to know to play safely. There are also extensive sections on giving and receiving pain, including flagellation, clamps, and erotic torture. The sections on anal play, breath control, electricity, piercing, cutting, and branding do a very good job of explaining the potential dangers and pointing you to resources that will help you to better and more safely explore these more potentially hazardous forms of SM play.

The author covers all of the basics you need to know to play well and play safely. Well-written from years of practical experience, it also includes a lot of references to books, clubs, organizations, and other resources to continue you on your way. Anyone wanting to get involved in SM or B&D would do well to use this book as a guide.
 

-JB

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